Winston Smith – Feeling Bad about Feeling Bad? (#CCEF16 Main Session 1)

By | October 15, 2016

winstonsmithOur negative emotions are designed to deepen our relationship with Christ and to each other.

Winston Smith opened the 2016 CCEF conference by focusing our attention on so called “negative” emotions.  Consider anger, sadness, grief, anxiety, or stress. Winston asked us if we ever felt bad about feeling bad. “Do you ever feel bad about feeling bad? Do you get angry at yourself for getting angry? Do you feel shame for feeling bad?”  Our attitudes toward our emotions impact how we experience them.

Winston explained that Christians often consider “negative” emotions as evidence of spiritual failure, as if we have lost sight of the gospel. But we shouldn’t think this way. “Our negative emotions are designed to deepen our relationship with Christ and to each other.”

Winston took us to the story of Jesus raising Lazarus from the dead in . Jesus’ emotions in the story reveal his divinity, not just his humanity. Understanding that narrative as an expression of his divinity, not just his humanity, gives us an important glimpse of ourselves because we are created in God’s image. Negative emotions are part of the way we reflect the glory and image of God, being mirrors of God’s heart.

From the beginning of the story, God’s purposes are there. Jesus tarries four days, so that Lazarus may die, so that his glory may be revealed in raising him from the dead. We know that there is going to be a happy ending. Within minutes there is going to be intense joy and celebration.

And yet when Jesus saw Mary weeping, and the Jews weeping, He was “was deeply moved in spirit and troubled.” He experiences an emotional storm, not just sadness. Jesus knows the ending of the story, and yet Jesus weeps and grieves and is in anguish. His tears are not a weakening of resolve, not a crack in his faith, not a moment of doubt. “Jesus has come face to face with the ugliness of sin and death. He can see it on his friend’s faces and hear it in their own cries and he can see it in their tears.” The reality of the brokenness of the world is facing Him face to face. Jesus is emotional. He weeps.

How would we counsel Jesus in his grief? Would we be tempted to see his emotional anguish as weakness? But praise the Lord that we have a God that is not only intellectually there, but emotionally there as well.

In one sense, as Christians, knowing God’s will and being aware of His purposes and glory actually intensifies our grief. It intensifies our sorrow because the ugliness and wrongness of sin becomes even uglier. We know this is not the way it was meant to be.

Praise the Lord that He is engaged in our plight. The God who is revealed in Lazarus’s story is the same God who warns Israel of her sins and warns her to repent. This is the same God who laments Jerusalem’s destruction in Jeremiah and Lamentations. “God loves us and hates sin. He hates it’s effect on creation and our lives.”

It is the nature of love to be fully engaged in the welfare of the other. God is love. And Jesus is Immanuel, love with us. And that love with us is going to be emotionally engaged with our welfare.

The thought of God having emotions can be unsettling for us. We often experience strong emotion as a bad thing. We can be pushed around and led by our emotions. “Our emotions can take us places and bid us to do things we know we shouldn’t do… But God is never pushed or led by his emotions.” God is not ruled by his emotions. “God’s emotions, whether anger, sorrow, or joy are perfect expressions of his holy character and his loving purposes.” We don’t need to defend God by denying his emotions. Rather, we should understand that they are different from us in expressions of his character and perfect love.

The more we share in God’s image, the more we have clarity about sin and the experience of the curse, and the more we will experience more intensely the wrongness of the wrong.

As we grow in Christ, we should expect, anticipate, and understand that the Christian life is a calling to feel “negative” emotions. Like God himself, we are to be moved by the state of brokenness and sin. This is what love and the gospel is about.  God enters into our pain. Praise the Lord who took action, entering into our world, because of his great love.

<< The rest of the conference will speak about how to engage our emotions, and connect with God in our emotions.  View the other CCEF16 main session summaries here. >>

11:1 Now a certain man was ill, Lazarus of Bethany, the village of Mary and her sister Martha. It was Mary who anointed the Lord with ointment and wiped his feet with her hair, whose brother Lazarus was ill. So the sisters sent to him, saying, “Lord, he whom you love is ill.” But when Jesus heard it he said, “This illness does not lead to death. It is for the glory of God, so that the Son of God may be glorified through it.”

Now Jesus loved Martha and her sister and Lazarus. So, when he heard that Lazarus was ill, he stayed two days longer in the place where he was. Then after this he said to the disciples, “Let us go to Judea again.” The disciples said to him, “Rabbi, the Jews were just now seeking to stone you, and are you going there again?” Jesus answered, “Are there not twelve hours in the day? If anyone walks in the day, he does not stumble, because he sees the light of this world. 10 But if anyone walks in the night, he stumbles, because the light is not in him.” 11 After saying these things, he said to them, “Our friend Lazarus has fallen asleep, but I go to awaken him.” 12 The disciples said to him, “Lord, if he has fallen asleep, he will recover.” 13 Now Jesus had spoken of his death, but they thought that he meant taking rest in sleep. 14 Then Jesus told them plainly, “Lazarus has died, 15 and for your sake I am glad that I was not there, so that you may believe. But let us go to him.” 16 So Thomas, called the Twin, said to his fellow disciples, “Let us also go, that we may die with him.”

17 Now when Jesus came, he found that Lazarus had already been in the tomb four days. 18 Bethany was near Jerusalem, about two miles off, 19 and many of the Jews had come to Martha and Mary to console them concerning their brother. 20 So when Martha heard that Jesus was coming, she went and met him, but Mary remained seated in the house. 21 Martha said to Jesus, “Lord, if you had been here, my brother would not have died. 22 But even now I know that whatever you ask from God, God will give you.” 23 Jesus said to her, “Your brother will rise again.” 24 Martha said to him, “I know that he will rise again in the resurrection on the last day.” 25 Jesus said to her, “I am the resurrection and the life. Whoever believes in me, though he die, yet shall he live, 26 and everyone who lives and believes in me shall never die. Do you believe this?” 27 She said to him, “Yes, Lord; I believe that you are the Christ, the Son of God, who is coming into the world.”

28 When she had said this, she went and called her sister Mary, saying in private, “The Teacher is here and is calling for you.” 29 And when she heard it, she rose quickly and went to him. 30 Now Jesus had not yet come into the village, but was still in the place where Martha had met him. 31 When the Jews who were with her in the house, consoling her, saw Mary rise quickly and go out, they followed her, supposing that she was going to the tomb to weep there. 32 Now when Mary came to where Jesus was and saw him, she fell at his feet, saying to him, “Lord, if you had been here, my brother would not have died.” 33 When Jesus saw her weeping, and the Jews who had come with her also weeping, he was deeply moved in his spirit and greatly troubled. 34 And he said, “Where have you laid him?” They said to him, “Lord, come and see.” 35 Jesus wept. 36 So the Jews said, “See how he loved him!” 37 But some of them said, “Could not he who opened the eyes of the blind man also have kept this man from dying?”

38 Then Jesus, deeply moved again, came to the tomb. It was a cave, and a stone lay against it. 39 Jesus said, “Take away the stone.” Martha, the sister of the dead man, said to him, “Lord, by this time there will be an odor, for he has been dead four days.” 40 Jesus said to her, “Did I not tell you that if you believed you would see the glory of God?” 41 So they took away the stone. And Jesus lifted up his eyes and said, “Father, I thank you that you have heard me. 42 I knew that you always hear me, but I said this on account of the people standing around, that they may believe that you sent me.” 43 When he had said these things, he cried out with a loud voice, “Lazarus, come out.” 44 The man who had died came out, his hands and feet bound with linen strips, and his face wrapped with a cloth. Jesus said to them, “Unbind him, and let him go.”

45 Many of the Jews therefore, who had come with Mary and had seen what he did, believed in him, 46 but some of them went to the Pharisees and told them what Jesus had done. 47 So the chief priests and the Pharisees gathered the Council and said, “What are we to do? For this man performs many signs. 48 If we let him go on like this, everyone will believe in him, and the Romans will come and take away both our place and our nation.” 49 But one of them, Caiaphas, who was high priest that year, said to them, “You know nothing at all. 50 Nor do you understand that it is better for you that one man should die for the people, not that the whole nation should perish.” 51 He did not say this of his own accord, but being high priest that year he prophesied that Jesus would die for the nation, 52 and not for the nation only, but also to gather into one the children of God who are scattered abroad. 53 So from that day on they made plans to put him to death.

54 Jesus therefore no longer walked openly among the Jews, but went from there to the region near the wilderness, to a town called Ephraim, and there he stayed with the disciples.

55 Now the Passover of the Jews was at hand, and many went up from the country to Jerusalem before the Passover to purify themselves. 56 They were looking for Jesus and saying to one another as they stood in the temple, “What do you think? That he will not come to the feast at all?” 57 Now the chief priests and the Pharisees had given orders that if anyone knew where he was, he should let them know, so that they might arrest him. (ESV)